As I was reading her ideas I came up with some of my own and I wanted to share them.
Andria is firmly in favor of the ordination of women. Her post systematically addresses each of the most common arguments against it. First she addressed the claim "if God wanted women to have the priesthood then they would already have it." I think she makes a valid point when she says that there have been very clear moments in the history of the saints where God has waited for us to ask before he has given us greater knowledge or light. She says that perhaps God is waiting to grant women the priesthood, but he is waiting for us to be ready and to ask for that gift.
As I said, I think she makes a fair point. And I would look at Elder Holland's talk in this weekend's conference to confirm the principle of asking and questioning that I think many people often forget is fundamental to the LDS faith (tangentially, just everyone please go and watch that talk again because it was one of the greatest talks I think I have ever heard). But I think that there is a corollary that comes with that idea that Andria doesn't quite address. As she says, sometimes the Lord is just waiting for us to be ready. But...what if we aren't? What then? I think Andria would say that that is what the Ordain Women movement is all about. Getting us ready so it can happen already. And I can understand that. But I think it is important to remember the balance--that is, no matter how ready you think the world and the church and the people are, if you truly believe that the Lord is in charge and that the Presidency are abiding by His wishes and it hasn't happened...well...then it isn't time. I understand how defeatist that might sound. I don't mean it that way. All I mean is that, again as Elder Holland said, you have to keep perspective and remember what you do believe. Don't abandon something you know to be good because it is not yet perfect. I guess that is what I'm trying to say. Don't get frustrated if things don't happen as quickly as you want.
Andria addresses men who dismiss the Priesthood as busy work and women who dismiss it as just another responsibility to add to their already maxed out schedules. I'm slightly bemused at how she tells men who belittle the duties of the Priesthood that they deeply misunderstand the fundamental nature and significance of the authority they wield, whilst simultaneously telling women to calm down because it's not such a big deal in terms of the commitment required. Be that as it may, I think I can respect at least the hesitancy of women on these grounds. When I think about the possibility of adding priesthood duties to my life I literally think "awesome...another aspect of my life to feel guilty about for failing to maximize my potential..." Perhaps it is petty of me to feel that way, but that is, unfortunately, the way I feel. I don't think I'm "lame" for this.
And lastly, she addresses two points which I am going to combine. She talks about the "men and women are different but equal" argument and the "men have the priesthood and women have motherhood". Both of these are, to me at least, essentially rephrasings of the argument that men and women have different strengths and different roles to fill. She asserts that if women are equal then they should be equally able to care for themselves or their families (or visiting teachees) if they do not happen to have a man handy to take care of the blessing and the household running--as many women do not. She says that motherhood is not a true compliment to priesthood. Fatherhood would be the true compliment of motherhood, and priestesshood of priesthood. She very interestingly points out that motherhood is more a physical ability (no matter how nurturing a man might be and how rejecting of gender stereotypes...he simply cannot bake a miniature human within his lower abdomen; there is no oven there) and priesthood is a spiritual gift and discipline (a woman is absolutely capable of humbling herself and making herself in tune with the spirit). I think that is a really fascinating distinction that I personally haven't really heard addressed before, and is definitely worth considering further.
But this was my thought as I read her comments on these issues. It was actually prompted by my dad and step-mom teasing me. My dad texted asking me if I wanted the priesthood and I texted back absolutely; eventually we'd manage to excise men from the church entirely. And I realized that that was actually an important thought.
I'm going to go all historical on you now and take us all back to high school. Do you guys remember Plessy v. Ferguson and Brown v. Board of Education? These were two of those landmark cases you learned about in your social studies class that shaped the history of America. Specifically, Plessy v. Ferguson and Brown v. Board of Education dealt with the philosophy of "separate but equal" during the time of segregation (were gonna go ahead and pretend that time is past, despite this slightly gratifying (they're forcing change!) and simultaneously vomit-inducing (they even had to have this fight in 2013????) story that recently came to my attention...I just can't get side-tracked by that issue just now). Essentially, in Plessy the courts legitimized segregation, claiming that as long as everything was equal it was totes fine to keep them dark kids separate from them light kids. This was in 1896. 60 ish years later, Brown overturned this legal precedent, famously asserting "'Separate but equal' is inherently unequal". Integration painfully ensued.
Those words. "Separate but equal is inherently unequal." I think those words have sunk deep into the American psyche since 1954. I think they have really been at the heart of the seemingly endless struggle for equality for all the people (all of them...women, gays, blacks, immigrants, whatever). See, we look at something like Plessy v. Ferguson and we can see exactly how awful that decision was. There was no equal. "Separate but equal" meant "We get the nice stuff and you get the shitty reject stuff." During the days of "separate but equal" everything was horrible. During the days of "separate but equal is inherently unequal" things started to get better. And we've spent the last 60 years drilling that into our minds. If it is separate, distinct, or apart then there is an inequality there.
At the same time, however, somehow that idea has paradoxically been fused with a sort of obsession with personal independence. Equality has come to mean that every person is able to do every thing for themselves. If you are dependent on another human being that means that they hold power over you and must therefore consider themselves superior to you. Sometimes, of course, this means opportunity if not actual ability--"I could definitely learn to be a mechanic if I wanted. I simply choose to invest my time elsewhere and pay this fellow to mechanic for me." You get the point though. Everyone must know they have the option to do everything for themselves if they wanted to.
So when I joked with my dad that ultimately we feminists were going to get rid of all the menz in the church and get things done ourselves it suddenly occurred to me that maybe we should think about that. The Ordain Women movement is, as Andria said, about granting women the ability to take care of their and their families' priesthood needs themselves. Which is good, right? Equality is being able to take care of yourself by yourself. You don't have to depend on anyone else; no one else has power over you.
Except I can't help but think about the idea of a community of saints. That is the ideal toward which we are working, isn't it? A loving, close-knit community of saints who care about and serve each other. That is the goal. If we are all striving to become fully independent so that no one needs anyone else, somehow that just doesn't feel like a loving community to me. So let me ask you this. What if the reason that women don't hold the priesthood has absolutely nothing to do with their abilities or the lack thereof? What if it is all about teaching us to come together? What if the whole point is that you can't do it alone? Even that single mother. Maybe the gift she needs isn't that she can bless her children herself; rather it is that some brother in the ward has the opportunity to come serve her and strengthen the bond between them.
It requires a fundamental shift in perspective to look at the "gender" rolls of the church in this way. It is a shift from viewing male and female interaction as competitive and antagonistic to complimentary and constructive. I can understand why such a shift may well be impossible for a lot of women. I don't think I will ever become a true feminist (a fact which I am completely ok with) because I will never see the battle in every day life like they do. And I'm glad that they do. Their efforts have materially improved my life. But I think that this is an idea worth considering. "Separate but equal is inherently unequal" may or may not be the great truth we believe it to be, but I submit this: "different but equal" is not the same evil as "separate but equal". As some banal YA book once said: a key and a lock look completely different to the point that if you knew nothing about them you might never believe that they were companions; indeed, each serves a completely separate purpose. Yet neither can fulfill that purpose without the other. Sometimes differences bring us together so that we can combine our strengths and abilities and become better than either of us were apart. Better than we ever would have suspected had we insisted on doing everything alone.
It is important to understand that I don't have any sort of fundamental problem with the idea of women being ordained to the Priesthood. I'm a little uncomfortable with the idea of lobbying the leaders of the church to affect changes we think are necessary (aren't we supposed to believe that they're inspired?) but I appreciate the importance of having the debate. If the first presidency ever comes out with an announcement that women are to be ordained to the priesthood I will not have a problem with that, though I understand many likely will. But I wanted to share my thoughts on this topic because they feel true and important to me. I hope they do so to you.
